Being heard.

Two nights ago, I flipped the “needy” switch on in my voice and turned to Brian.

Me, “Brian?  Could you get me my pills… and some water… and some freshly baked cookies?”

Brian, “Seriously?”

Me, “No.  Or brownies…”

Brian, “We don’t have any of that stuff.  You want me to go get you some?”

Me, “No.  Noooooo, we don’t have it because I don’t buy it.  If it’s in the house I’ll eat it.”

Brian, “I can go to the store right now.”

Me, “Nah, don’t worry about it.”

You see, when I was little, my momma taught me the difference between “wanting” something and “needing” something.  I never NEED chocolate chip cookies (though sometimes it feels that way), while, yes, I do need nourishment throughout the day.  Expressing my craving to Brian was really just my way of being whiny and getting attention.  In a few minutes I had fallen asleep anyway, so it’s not like I couldn’t put off the sweet tooth for a while.

But last night?  Last night I walked through the door and noticed a familiar smell in the air:


The phone conversation that had preceded my arrival went like this:

Me, “Brian, I just wanted you to know that I’m heading to the grocery store before I go home.  I need orange juice and bananas for my smoothies.  Text me if you need anything.”

Brian, “Nah, I don’t need anything.  But I did just make you some cookies.”


Brian, “Yeah, I wanted them to be warm when you got home.”

My heart felt like putty, absolute putty.  It still does.  I’ve had two cookies this morning already.  It means so much to be heard by my husband, especially regarding the insignificant stuff.  As it turns out, that stuff is more significant than I thought.


  1. October 17, 2012

    Love that boy!


  2. October 17, 2012
    Heather F

    That is so sweet ^.^

  3. October 17, 2012

    I’m such a mush…. that makes me teary-eyed. What an awesome guy!

  4. October 17, 2012

    you are so totally blessed!

    with a daddy like that, Bennett is going to be an amazing husband to some lucky girl

  5. October 17, 2012
    Kara C

    That’s so sweet of him:)

  6. October 17, 2012
    Ben Guido

    Way to go, Brian! Hope everything is turning out well these last few weeks of pregnancy. I’ve been thinking about you guys as the end approaches. Wish we were still in VA to see the the little guy after he arrives. Blessings.

  7. October 17, 2012
    Joan Dedman

    Big smile!

  8. October 19, 2012

    They look beautiful! The greatest form of caring is listening and responding to your love’s needs.

  9. October 22, 2012

    How sweet <3

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