So there was this raffle.

Try to keep up.

My stepdad, Charley, has multiple myeloma.  Multiple myeloma is essentially cancer of the plasma cells in the blood.  We’ve known this since December of last year.  He’s been taking treatment meds at home, but as of this week he has to have chemo twice a week (two weeks on, one week off).  Once his blood counts are where they need to be, they want to do something called a stem cell transplant.  I don’t begin to understand all that… or how he was able to donate his own stem cells.  I’m a hairstylist, not a doctor.

The fact that he’s my stepdad and not my real dad does not make this any easier.  No, in fact, I find that it’s made processing his sickness even harder.  You see, where my real dad bailed, Charley stepped up and took three kids and my mom under his wing.  Go ahead and admire him.  That’s a pretty big deal.  You can imagine how intimidating that must be, marrying a woman who has been single-handedly mothering and fathering three pretty peculiar kids.

Allow me to elaborate on the ‘peculiar kids’comment.

  • Mandy: She wasn’t the most submissive child.  And she’s loud.  (Wonderful, but loud.)
  • Me: I’m a sensitive Square Piece.  If you haven’t figured out my oddities by now, then you’re definitely a square piece, too.
  • Joey: He’s a drummer, he’s brilliant… and he’s easily bored.  His idea of a good time might be to light things on fire.

In addition to Charley taking on our family, he and Momma also begat my awesome little bro, Donovan.  Then they adopted my awesome little sis, Olivia.

So here’s why it’s hard seeing my stepdad fight a cancer for which the doctors say there is no cure: #1) I’ve already seen my mom be a single mom once.  I don’t want to see her do that again.  #2) I don’t want my little sibs to lose their dad.  #3) Charley models the love of Christ more than most people that I know because his heart is so compassionate, calm, selfless, and serving.  So it’d be nice if he stuck around for forever… or at least as long as Methuselah.

Well, my mother-in-law had an idea to do a raffle and raise medical money for the fam.  It’s not that insurance doesn’t cover a lot.  They do.  But Charley’s run out of sick days, for one.  For two, the new year is coming and with that comes a new round of medical deductibles to pay.  For three, the family gets by on one income and will soon be burning a lot of gas driving back and forth to the chemo appointments (about 30 miles each way).  Not that I even need to explain this, right?

The raffle ended yesterday as Charley drew the winners who would be claiming each prize.  It looks like the amount of money that was raised came to approximately 4-6 weeks worth of pay!

A huge thanks to all who participated in this and the two bake sales!  Please keep us in your prayers.

(From left: Charley, Momma, mom-in-law, mom-in-law’s hubby)



  1. October 24, 2011

    So very very glad the raffle came out well. If you decide to do another raffle, let me know far enough in advance and I’ll do a knit or crocheted blanket or afghan to donate. Just have to have enough time in advance to get it done.

  2. October 25, 2011

    Oh me too! I got skills I’ll let you raffle off. Free bartending, anyone? I’ll even supply some of the booze. The afghan and bartendering could be part of a silent auction… just saying.

  3. October 25, 2011
    Momma @Donna

    thanks for starting my day off with sniffling, Suzy *mwah*

    small correction … it’s not that he ran out of sick days, but that he does not get any sick pay at all … the company he works with has never paid an employee when they have to take off for an illness, so they have to use a vacation day if they want to get paid …

    thank you Heather and Sherri for your offers/ideas on future fund raising … it feels good to know that the “body of Christ” is prepared to step in and show us the love of God


  4. October 25, 2011

    This is a really touching blog post Suzy. Love, Erika

  5. October 25, 2011

    having met both your mom and your stepdad, i gotta agree with you on what a wonderful guy Charley is!

    • October 29, 2011
      Momma @Donna

      thanks, NJ

      you’re a pretty good judge of character 🙂

  6. October 25, 2011

    He really was worth the wait. An amazing father, husband, friend and role model. He has a fun spirit and truly is selfless. He makes me smile. <3

    • October 29, 2011
      Momma @Donna

      yeah … he’s pretty special 🙂

  7. October 25, 2011

    Keep me posted if there would be any way that I can help with future events to raise money for him. Will continue to pray for his healing!

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