…don’t say anything at all.

Square Piece followers, do you assume that when a hairstylist changes her hair, it’s because she:

A) Is creative and wants to try something new?


B) Just wants to give you something else in life to critically evaluate?

Raise your hand if you picked option A.  Good job!  Gold stars all over your test.  You go to the top of the class.

Now, for those of you who picked option B:  If I wanted to give you something to critically evaluate, I’d give you a newspaper, the U.S. budget or a Lady Gaga album.  So until I hang a sign around my neck that says, “Open for criticism,” perhaps you ought to listen to your mother who – I’m SURE – taught you that if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.

Actual conversation I had last week the day after I freshened up my red hair:

Client, sitting in my chair looking rather unimpressed, “So.  What’d you do to your hair this time?”

Me, “If by ‘What did you do to your hair,’ you mean, ‘Your hair looks fabulous,’ then thank you!”

Client, “I don’t like it.”

Me, “…ok…”

Client, “I like it better when it’s dark.”

Me, “…ok…”

Client, “Does your husband like it?”

Me, “Yeah, he loves it!”

Client, with a very flat tone of voice, “Well.  I guess that’s all that matters.”

Ahem.  Well if that’s ALLLLLLL that matters, what was all that other stuff for?  Hmmm?

Later on that day I was informed by another client that the “good news” was that my red hair made my eyes look extra blue.  That’s not good news when your eyes are green.  The “bad news” was that I needed to wear a different shade of lipstick.  Never mind the fact that my shade of lipstick was practically identical to my natural lip color.  Why?  Because I was wearing greeeeeeeeen eye shadow!  The general rule is to pick one or the other – lips or eyes.  Don’t make them both heavy; otherwise at 2:00 on a Thursday afternoon you’ll just look like a circus clown.

To the credit of my gracious clientele, I probably received 20 compliments on my red hair that day.  Yet I – even I – can be discouraged by the more memorable, negative comments.  Moral of the story: If a hairstylist is wearing a shade of red haircolor that makes you go, “whoa,” she’s probably done it on purpose.  So leave her alone.  Moral number two: Let’s all practice random acts of compliments!




  1. August 29, 2011

    I absolutely love it! You look fabulous!

  2. August 29, 2011
    Zach Gwynn

    I think it looks good on you. Then again I am a big fan of red hair.

  3. August 29, 2011

    I think you always look beautiful! I wish I had a fraction of what you have.

  4. August 29, 2011

    I picked A! I love your heart, mind, spirit, and courage to try new things. You make me brave enough to try new things :o) It’s amazing to me how unsolicited comments always find their way out of people’s mouths.
    I’m thankful for Suzanna’s blog
    I’m thankful for humor
    I’m thankful for honesty
    I’m thankful for my grandmother telling me, “If you don’t have anything nice to stay, don’t say anything at all.”

  5. August 29, 2011

    you so totally amuse me

    I love the red and the white and all the colors in between *mwahh*!

  6. September 6, 2011

    I loved the fact that all I had to do yesterday was stand on my tippy toes and I could spot you from across the store. Oh and you know that I am a huge fan of red hair! 🙂

  7. November 13, 2015

    Aahhh, now I am very curious to see this red hair- maybe it will come back? ???? And yes, for pete’s sake, if you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all!!

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