Having Known For… The Six Month Reflection, Part 4.

And what’s developed spiritually since the babe was born?

Well, first I need you to remember the third revelation that I had upon reading Psalm 139:13, the revelation which prompted the knitting tattoo:

“Every project I’ve ever knit has had a purpose.  Take an ordinary sock.  It’s clearly designed with intention: a sock warms a foot.  But if a sock wanted to be a hat and warm the head?  Well, that’d be a pretty sad picture, wouldn’t it?  Or if a hat wanted to be a scarf?  Hmm, I don’t think Mr. Hat would be so successful in that.  I’ve never personally knit together even the most basic project without knowing what sort of purpose it would fulfill.  Sure, I might not know who the recipient of said project will be; but I do know what the function of the piece is.

So if God knitted me together in my mother’s womb, that must mean that He’s knitted me together with certain gifts, talents and abilities to fulfill specific purposes.  So all that time and effort that I spend envying the differences in others would probably be better spent appreciating that a loving God crafted me with skill and intention.  I might not be the best at being somebody else; but if I pay attention, I could be the best at being me and living up to my design.”

In order to be perfectly clear, I’ve gone so far as to insist that Brian take a couple of ridiculous pictures.

Here you’ll see my attempt to use a scarf to warm my head and a hat to warm my neck:

Worship analogy.

Pretty pathetic seeing as I’m not the sultan of anything.

But here you’ll see the scarf as it was designed to be worn as well as the hat:

Worship analogy.

Much better.

So in my everyday life, when I purchase a hat and wear it as the original designer intended it to be worn, I’m acting in agreement with the designer and my actions display the value that I find in his purposes.

The same goes for the scarf.

And the same goes for a new hairstyle.  If someone were to take the time to not only customize a look for me, but also teach me exactly how to style it with certain products and techniques, then when I go home and copy that approach, my actions would be reflecting a trust in my stylist and a respect for my stylist.

And so the same goes for the Lord knitting me together with motherly instincts and abilities.

There is a vast array of purposes that the Lord has for me on this earth.  But there’s not a bone in my body that doubts that being Bennett’s mother is one of them.  Quite the contrary.  Never do I know a greater sense of rightness than when I’m nurturing and caring for that boy.  Some people feel that having kids would feel akin to shackling weights to their hands and feet, imprisoned at home, suffocated by domesticity.

Well, I’ve never felt more free.  How could I feel as if I’m in a cage when all my heart does is soar, soar, soar, dipping and swirling, spreading its wings and reveling in the joy that is before me?

Clearly I was made for this, like a hat is made for the head.  Daily, my soul nods in agreement and thanks to the Lord for being such a wise designer.  In quiet praise, I ascribe worth to the purposes He’s placed before me.  And, ya know, some people call that, “ascribing worth,”  worship.

So, no, I don’t have as much free time to read my Bible as I used to.  Mornings are hectic, afternoons are hectic and evenings are hectic.  I can’t remember the last time that I fasted and prayed.  (I’d be a little concerned about my breast milk supply dwindling!)  All the showy acts that once demonstrated my heart for the Lord are few and far between these days.

…And yet… I don’t feel a shred of guilt.

Here’s why: There might’ve once been a time in my life when the absence of daily devotions (prayer time, Bible study, etc.) would have definitely indicated a wandering heart.  But now?  Now is different.  My heart isn’t running from Him, replacing our quality time with less meaningful idols.  No, my heart runs to Him daily, it’s just that my worship looks a little different.

Bennett is one of the best presents that the Lord has ever placed in my lap.  In every way, the fiber of my being was obviously designed with skills, talents, abilities, interests and love to care for this boy.  So WHEN I care for this boy, I’m valuing both the gift and the giver, my actions reflecting an agreement with His purposes, ascribing worth to what He’s designed me to be and the intentional purposes with which he knit me together.

All that to say, when I mother Bennett, my spirit feels like it’s worshipping the Lord and my soul feels like it’s is loving Him, too.


(Do feel free to share this if you know of someone who might need the encouragement!)


  1. April 30, 2013
    Haylee Deener

    This is my favorite post yet! It is so true. Nicely worded Suzy. It is a good reminder to me that God knit me together with his own purpose for me. Sometimes I think I don’t have any skills and I find myself envying others talents, but God gave me my own that fits me just right! thanks for the reminder!

  2. April 30, 2013

    Worship looks a little different for me, too, lately. Thanks for confirming that. 🙂

    • And obviously the point isn’t to lessen the value of time in the Word, but to lessen the self-imposed guilt that comes from walking WITH Him thru different seasons of life, trusting His different means of communion.

  3. April 30, 2013

    What a beautiful way of viewing parenthood!

  4. April 30, 2013

    *nodding head in agreement*. Well said, Sue. Now you got me wondering what I was knit for. Hmmm. lol You know, I think that waiting on God’s timing had a lot to do with where you are spiritually and mentally today. Life could’ve been very different had Benny came along a couple years back. God’s timing is perfect. Life is beautifully orchestrated when we wait on Him. <3

  5. April 30, 2013

    loving all the comments.

    in his book, ‘Unceasing Worship,’ H.Best states that we were all created to worship and we all worship something all of the time.

    Our worship of God takes many forms. Romans, chapter 12, verse 1 states,I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.

    to me, this means that every thing i do can be construed as worship, if done with a right heart (did that make sense?)

    years ago, a young friend stated how she hated all the diaper changing, cleaning up, etc until she offered up each task as an act of worship. she said that it changed her entire perspective on things when she realized that God was allowing her to serve and worship Him in caring for her family.

    for me, it means that dealing with the population i deal with is an opportunity to serve God, not mearly a job that can have its uncomfortable and annoying moments. i periodically remind myself that Jesus died to save each of these scruffy guys and annoying co-workers and loves each of them at least as much as He loves me. 🙂 and goodness knows, i’m not the easiest of people to deal with, either!

  6. April 30, 2013

    Wow, what a gorgeous picture of motherhood. Very inspirational and well-timed.

  7. April 30, 2013

    To me, your just revelling in the best gift ever!

  8. May 1, 2013

    This too is my favorite entry, Suzanna.

    God gave me many gifts as well. Among them artistic skill I that turned into my career.

    When the time was right for both Larry and me we wanted children. I prayed and prayed to God for many years with no success. For a period of time I honestly believed God had other plans for me and then four years and three months later I was pregnant with my precious Lauren. Soon thereafter with the blessing from God we planted the seed of Brad on the very night we decided to give Lauren a sibling.

    Lauren and Brad are my greatest works of art and, as only God knows, I made them my first and foremost “project”, my purpose.

    Bennett is a very lucky little fella to have you as a mother and I hope he cherishes the words you put to paper one day.

    On a lighter note, I cherish you for the gift you give me each time I visit you at the salon. Your skills make me feel fresh, confidant and worthy of your talent!

    Love, Mardi

  9. May 30, 2013

    Simply beautiful.

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