Missing the formulas.

Pregnancy craving of the day: an unusual salad.

This salad was made up of mixed greens, fresh pears, almond slivers and chick peas, no dressing.

Dressing is not my friend these days.

Yesterday I spent almost an hour eating fresh oranges.  When’s the last time you had a fresh orange?  Ahhh, nature’s sweet dessert.  (I highly recommended keeping a wet paper towel on hand for those sort of sticky meals.)

This evening, I attended a meeting at which there were limited dinner options.  Pregnant Square Piece ate something on the “naughty list.”


I hate that list.

And I especially hate that list when client after client confesses to all the taboo deeds she participated in during her pregnancy, all the while ending up with a happy, healthy baby.

Alcohol + litter box + deli meat + 3rd trimester traveling + smoking + getting tattooed + hair coloring = DANGER, DANGER, DANGER!

My frustration lies in the fact that this is an inaccurate math formula.  In a REAL math formula, plugging in the same numbers would result in the same answer every time.  Two plus two will always equal four.  Always.

But plug in two random pregnancy “don’ts” into the same formula?  Sometimes you get a healthy baby and an easy delivery.  Sometimes you get a miscarriage.  Sometimes you wind up needed an emergency C-section.  Sometimes you get a sick baby.

There’s just NO real and true formula!  Even the healthiest mom can miscarry.


Discouraged Square Piece feels like she’s on a journey, navigating a maze that’s incased in a bunch of padded walls marked “Probably,” “Possibly,” “Maybe,” “Just in Case,” “Why Risk It?” and “Sometimes.”

Encouraged Square Piece feels like she’s on a journey, a maze that can only be navigated by looking up into the sky and reading “Trust Me” in the clouds.


  1. April 28, 2012

    Have enjoyed many salads without dressing … I will have to try mine with pears one day.

    The doctor said your sister’s birth defects were from an “accident in the womb” and the chances of it happening again were one in a million …. but I still worried that something would happen during the next three pregnancies …. either through my fault or another “accident” …. it’s hard not to worry ….

    I pray you have more peaceful moments of trusting, whether you see it written in the clouds or the sunshine, or a song ….

    Love you!

  2. April 28, 2012

    Smoking…Tatoos …wtf noooo! !! Deli meat is not terrible! I always found being pregnant scary bc you never know what could happen, but you will get thru it somehow no matter the outcome is:) and then once they are here, its a whole new list of worries…

  3. April 28, 2012

    You do your best. Be wise and sensible and leave your baby in the Lord’s capable and loving hands. It is the beginning of realizing that Jesus loves your child even more than you do. That comforts me when I panic/worry / obsess over things I cannot control about my kids.

  4. April 29, 2012
    adele bernard

    I love your honesty!

  5. May 1, 2012

    One glass of wine or beer will not hurt you; Use disposable gloves for a litter box. Do you have a cat? Deli meat is no problem as long as it’s fresh and contains no MSG or awful additives. Try ‘just turkey’ or ‘just roast beef’ at Wegman’s; Even if you’re not pregnant you should not smoke! (I do, but not you); I have never heard of not travelling. Maybe because you will be far from your chosen doctor or hospital? Can’t imagine why else; I’m not informed on hair coloring or tattoos, but I’m sure you are and can make the decision wisely. You tickle me!

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