The first 27th.

Today is the 27th.

Charley passed away exactly one month ago.

Still processing.

The Lord was good in timing Bennett’s arrival.  What a precious gift to us all, including Charley.  And now to have this little smiler exploring and discovering… It sure has been a delight.

Every now and again I hear a song on the radio, one that we sang while supporting and loving on Charley in his last hours.  When that happens, my heart tugs a little.  I sigh and shake my head at what a shame this all was… the cancer, him only being 60 years old, Olivia being 14 and Donovan 16.  Just a shame.  But I don’t regret singing.

Momma indicated in a recent blog post of hers that in her grief, as time moves on, she doesn’t miss Charley less, but more.  I hadn’t realized that it would be so, but that makes sense.  Unfortunately.  He really was utterly smitten with her.

I was surprised to receive a few flowers and sympathy cards.  Having been so wrapped up in concern for Momma and my siblings, it hadn’t occurred to me that I’d need a chance to grieve his loss, too.  Hadn’t crossed my mind.  They feel more important to me.  Their loss seems greater and harder.

If you were’t expecting a more sober post today, I do apologize if I’ve bummed you out.  Please say a prayer for the family as everyone’s adjusting to the new normal.



  1. June 27, 2013


  2. June 27, 2013

    You all are always in my prayers and thoughts. I’m so happy that Bennett was there. Just seeing the pics, you can tell how much Charley loved the little guy.

  3. June 27, 2013

    Just sending many hugs. I’m not sure missing someone you love ever becomes easier. We continue by remembering and treasuring the past and this is a good thing.

  4. June 28, 2013

    Prayers. The grief really sets in around the 3rd to 6th month. Hopefully your momma and all if you will seek grief counseling .

    I would love to get all of your momas blogs.

  5. July 1, 2013
    Aunt Manny

    There will never be another quite like our Charley. <3 This pain will take a very long time to dissipate. The missing will always remain.

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